I would like to be able to communicate better with the other men in new social situations. I have always had a good kinship with women and find that conversations with women are more meaningful and deep, and I’m always comfortable with that, and they are with me. The hard part is to convey an air of genuine interest, and not just another guy trying to pick them up, but that’s beside this point for now.
But sometimes, I find myself mingling with a new guy(s) in my social circle and inevitably need to talk to them about something. I would say that 80% of the time, I can tell that him and I won’t be forming any kind of friendship, nicely saying that we usually don’t have anything in common, but I want to still be able to leave the conversation with them feeling like I’m still a good guy. I know that when I just ask surface questions and let the conversation die out as it usually does, I know my presence in that conversation will be as quickly forgotten theirs would be.
I’m going to try and fix this by being armed with some good conversation pieces that will allow them to talk about whatever they want with the passion that they have for the topic (whether I care about it or not, I can still show genuine interest), leaving them feeling like I was a good guy, and thus increasing my social value. Even if we never become friends, there’s still the possibility of expanding my own social circle through them and their connections because they will have respected me and enjoyed my company anyway.
That’s my plan and I’m sticking to it!