I’ll admit, when I get into a disagreement with someone, mainly someone who is much more aggressive and lashes out without logic or reason, I try not to stoop to their level and fight back, and so I revert to the silent treatment. Sort of a “since I have nothing nice to say right now, I’ll say nothing at all”.
Well, I’m in a situation like that with someone right now - not a family member or close friend, a business colleague who had started to become somewhat more of a trusted acquaintance sort of bordering on a budding friendship, but someone I know is toxic with a capital T and we have been through this before, so I’m not exactly keen on letting her back in, but I do occasionally have to work with her and subcontract out to her for jobs.
I am going to see this person and since there is so much that she said (in an email) that has gone unaddressed, I’m worried there will be this big fat elephant in the room.
This person is one of those “larger than life, life of the party, big talk, loud voice, bully type personalities”, so this is not someone you can easily pull aside for a quiet discreet word. if she tries to engage on this topic again, everyone will hear. But she’s also very good at putting on a show, so I can also see that she will come up with hugs and kisses and ask me about my family and act like nothing is wrong, and my worry is if I’m nicey-nice back, she will take that as if everything is fine, when it’s not fine.
Any advice appreciated.