Im sorry you feel this way about the forums. I hope that people feel like this is more than just advertisements for my products. I try to offer this area as free support and expect nothing from it except to help people.
We can start a personal stories thread per your suggestion. This would most likely be under leadership or communication. So as not to confuse people @dmbaker177 will you repost this quote from @Nevo :
"But here's the thought behind this category. It is meant for people to share about some interaction, and recieving feedback on it. This can function in this manner:
1) Presenting observations.
2) Explain interpretations.
I take that the first 2 points are fairly obvious, so I'll just slightly explain 3rd point. Always when we look back at situations, we'll be able to, so this is simply where we look back and tell ourselves: "Oh, I forgot keeping track of eye-movements, I should do that. Also I forgot to focus on having an open body-language, so I think I crossed my arms too much", in a few concise points.
Then other people can jump in and ask into observations, sometimes people forget about some critical observations that they actually did notice, or have an inkling about. And help coming with alternative interpretations that might be more coherent and make more sense.
I'll start with a small example from today:
I watched a boy and a girl talking to eachother in a cafeteria, during a 'mass job-interview' where there was nothing to do. The girl was primarily the only one who was talking, with the boy only interjecting small remarks, during her speeches. She did make breaks which could last up to 30 seconds, but were always the one to start talking again, the boy being silent.
She sat with her legs to the side in a comfortable position, while seemingly learning as much forward as possible towards him, in that given position, which wasn't much, but it seemed like it. She also had her upper-body directed towards him, and spoke with a lot of hand-gestures and open bodylanguage.
Her face/head was mostly facing towards him, but she would on occasions look around, but it seemed more like a 'comfort' look away, due to the fact that it becomes awkward if you stare for too long at eachother. She would do this both while talking and during the breaks, there seemed no particular pattern to it, other than she would mimic his look during her breaks of not talking.
He, on the other hand, had his legs jump up and down while the rest of his body sat still, leaned backwards. When I started observing them, he had his hands across his belly, not crossed across the chest, as if to push her away, but still seemed like closed body-language. Later he moved his arms away, but at the same time his body tilted slightly away from her, with his front pointing in another direction.
He would smile and nod in agreement plenty of times, but also spend a lot of time seemingly neutral and not interested. He was fast and would often look around, even during her speaking and looking directly at him, but only for very short moments, being easily distracted.
He would lean his foot up against the leg of her chair once in a while, but otherwise they didn't really interact, touching eachother or eachothers chairs, things or anything.
My interpretation of this, is that they know eachother, since literally everyone else in that mass interview didn't interact with eachother, and he didn't seem like he would've done that either, had he not known her. Especially with her sitting really comfortably with really open body language, she seemed comfortable with him, and his foot leaning against the leg of her chair, seemed slightly out of charecter with his other gestures and actions, had she been a complete stranger.
She seemed really interested in engaging with him, while he seemed bored, and merely 'used her' as entertainment, or perhaps just played along, since it would be uncomfortable walking away from someone you know, simply because they bore you.
What could I have done better? ... perhaps not been a creeper and staring at other people xD I sat too far away to watch eye-movements or follow the conversation, but I'm sure had I done that, that it would've given me tons of information."
Under leadership and people can respond there? Then please delete this post so people aren't confused.