for today my aha moment was that "When-Feel-Need" technique. For me, when people bother me I'll usually tell them to stop if that doesn't work, I'll tell them that the actions that they are doing annoy me and I tell them why it annoys me.
For the Combo Franklin and Pygmalion Effect, I have a friend who is both a tank and one-upper. So once he cycles through his emotions, when I know he'll be getting his cigarettes I'll ask him if he could get me a bottled water to fill my water bottle(he'll ask me sometimes too) which will incorporate these strategies because he does is doing me a favor and he knows he'll be helpful.
For me, at my worst, I am a passive. I've had a few people come up to me(when I really don't feel the conversating) and they use everything for me to engage and for the conversation killers, I'll shoot it down with one-word answers. A few years ago when I was going through my Physical Therapy Technician program, one of my classmates came up to me and asked me if I did anything interesting and I said, "No", he kept on digging and I think he said if I had any projects, and I said no. He got frustrated and said he was trying to have a conversation with me.
The main reason why I am passive, where I disagree with the analysis is that I didn't want to be at that place(these are always family events or some religious function, which I've never been a fan of, to begin with) and I don't see a reason that I would have travel 20 to 30 minutes to be bored out of my mind in the first 5 minutes when I can be bored at home. Usually, at these functions, I'm the downer, although, I actively and consciously have my bonking signs up and people never respected it.
Bonking was used the correct way in the course, for bonking, you can bonk your head against the wall or ceiling, people usually do this when they trip on something and bonk their head.
There is a second meaning to bonking which J.k. was thinking and that was correct as well.