In today's class, we learned that for people to build oxytocin we should practice being a master listener and to use the RUC technique to validate that person's view. The exercise that was done with the uh-huhs, and yups, and the slow triple nod &c... doesn't work for me and during a long conversation people just look like a bobble head or the Sesame Street puppets that say, "Yup, yup, yup, uh-huh, uh-huh" bouncing all around. Nope, that doesn't work for me. If your hubby comes with you during your local speaking engagements the Sesame Street puppets could work on the following days...
Day 2, 4, 5, 7-10, 17, 22-23. When you showed the pic of your hubby having the Samurai sword while cutting the cake, I could easily see him doing something like that. As the course starts you can slowly introduce him then as the weeks go continue he can slowly make the transformation. Talk about building oxytocin. hahaha
I think my aha moment for this day was how the oxytocin build up was different between men and women. The perception seems to be that women hold more neurotic tendencies when interacting with a man and shows more anxiety. For example with the man, where the study regarding men said, "The more short interjections a man made, the more attractive he was to the woman who was talking." It seems perceived as the woman who just wants a "yes" man compared to the woman's side of, "The more short interjections the woman made, the more she liked the relationship outcome" on this side, the perception would be more of a self-soother and seems like she talks herself into a relationship.
If you laughed at the puppet character and have settled back in or had a weird thought, my results for my attachment style was
Avoidant - 0
Looking forward to Day 20...looking for love.