recently I've heard an interview with Anil Gupta, in which he mentioned these five questions you should ask (and make the other person ask you) on a regular basis to improve your relationships by ascertaining that you and the other person feel valued. They could also be adapted for the workplace:
1) What did you do today that you would love to be acknowledged for?
2) What are you grateful for today?
3) What act of kindness did you perform today?
4) What magic did you witness today?
5) Which unresolved issues would you like help with?
When I heard these questions, I immediately thought: Maybe this works because of science actually, it seems to me that they cover many happiness triggers Vanessa mentioned in her Power of Happiness-course:
(1) assists you in finding things you are good at (mastery)
(2) helps you practice gratitude (G-Spot 1)
(3) makes you consciously think about giving back to someone (G-Spot 2)
(4) helps you capitalise on good experiences by reliving them
(5) might make you a cause-champion (because you can help the person you asked)
So, I'd love to know whether you think these questions work as a happiness practice? Would you feel loved in a relationship, if you were asked those questions? Or do you think it would be rather awkward? Is it maybe part of what you love about someone that he/she values you for the right things without you having to tell him/her? Maybe someone is willing to try it out and share experiences? (In the interview, Gupta was also talking about doing that with children at the dinner table, letting them be "the chair(wo)man", thus boosting their self-confidence).
I'd be very interested in any comments you have
All the best,